READ THIS My ex has issues but I still want to get back together He didnt leave you because you dont love him enough. Im not sure about NC with him bc he will take it as I dont care and be done. Think of it like this when you go through a breakup, youre a mess of lots of different emotions like anger, sadness, grief, depression, etc. Anger is a tricky emotion after a breakup since it usually masks sadness and hurt. Im just so confused. To the point of hurting each other. Your ex might text you out of the blue or reach out to you for really odd, flimsy reasons. For example, id genuinely like to stay friends with my ex. NOW WATCH: How a former GE and NBC exec learned to be an extrovert, 8 subtle signs your ex is trying to get you back. This time investment can be through text messages, phone calls, or real-life interactions. Why did he want someone who needed loyalty and boundaries if hes a free-range kind of guy and why did I want things to work when I saw early on that he has no boundaries and loves everyone the same; the female friend has the same status as the girlfriend and the ex wife and the ex. Help please. Keep it up! And he replies fast but according to my wingman he does the same. Its not that I only see dead ends for these relationships quite the contrary. The day i came back, we had a talk just to let all our feelings out. he is txt me and calling nearly every day with random questions how are you hope you ok. When I work with clients who want to save their relationship, they are usually completely against dating anyone new. But I know he still feels for me. Please tell me if another round of no contact could fix the mess I made.. Im willing to go as long as possible without saying a word to her if it means I can have her back in my life.. And brendan is proud, chris lies as indifference. While there are no guarantees when it comes to love, these signs can help give you some insight into your guys heart. I really want him back, but I think I may have pushed him away and the influence of his single friends has pushed him to make this decision. Learn how your comment data is processed. Your ex wonders about their competition. And then he send me an email asked me if I ever need his help again, hes willing to help. Check out the Best of Elite Daily stream in the Bustle App for more stories just like this! Our 12 year old was so distressed. Most of the time when an ex says they still want to be friends, they are really saying that they are not ready to cope with loss. Why You Shouldnt, 10 Signs Your Ex is Turning Your Child Against You to Alienate, Can DCF Take My Child without a Court Order? I have zero interest in romance with her, not even break up sex. These consistent failures leave them with only one choice moving on. Being in it with him was hard, being away, given the attachment, is hard. I tried my best to be understanding but it started taking a toll on our relationship. And finally, sometimes people break up because theyre afraid of commitment. When your ex doesnt move on with someone new it can be a sign that they still love you and hope youll get back together. We broke up but still live together. And that sucks so badly I want to through up. Pretty much every day. Doesn't matter if there could or could not be future. We could be trying to ensure we dont hurt each other too much when we finally break up. So, in this case, does he still have feeling for me or something? I tried everything to reason with her and resolve things but she's . The reason I did NOT drag my feet was because I had excellent relationship coaching. I choose to ignore it, because I will make my own mind up, but whats the rushI mean who moves in with someone after afew months? My now ex Freshly an ex, made out with some chic 2 months ago. His reply to me was, Im sorry, Im busy. He then proceeds to tell me about his life and I just had a look of indifference on my face and nodded. Sorry is that was long I would sincerely appreciate a response. We had a five years long relationship.There was this nominal fight which ended our relationship.He gave me different reasons every time i talked to him. This isnt just about them having one three-hour long conversation with you because thats not really proof that theyre investing time in you. a 2 yr old and a 1 yr old but he loves my lil girls just as much as i do. When we first met we know we were meant for each other, we were in extreme happiness and we plan for our future together. For example, one partner may have had reservations from the beginning or may have doubted the relationships longevity. I could not deal with his harem of women and now that weve been broken up 6 months hes getting in touch, telling me what hes been up to, the trips hes taken, the female friend he helped out by letting her stay with him for two months, how his daughter is doing, how is parents and grandma are and then he asks how I am, how my parents are. Your ex is most likely trying to drink and party in an effort to forget you. The December of 2016 he brags about alcohol, getting alcohol poisoning during his 18th (Im an athlete) & tells me how he looks fancy right now through text, after i tell him how i love fancy parties, hes like I love them too i get to look nice haha (min later) I look nice right now & he usually sends paragraphs and sounds so professional. Breaks can be really clarifying if youre in a situation where youre unsure about your partner. These People Took Online Dating Off The Apps & Out Of The DMs, 17 Elite Daily Readers Share Their Low-Key Dating App Icks, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. But when he made out with the girl, he said that he hasnt been happy for years because he fell out of love years ago. Then it is my turn to talk about my feelings, I start off with the way you handled the break up was really immature. Suddenly I was shocked, cried and begged and obviously I made it worse. Of course, some people can get lucky, and their ex can come back after realizing the error of his ways, but for most of our clients, thats not what happens. You reconfigure your life without that person. A day ago and as it says he pretty much ghosting me so Im decided to go onto he blocking setting and did the taking a break from him seeing my post. Once i blocked him, i was free and i didnt even think about him. That isnt to boast, i just want to let people know that even if you didnt initiate a divorce, if you were great partner, compassionate, loving, generous, divorce can happen, but you will get over it in time and looking back you may well realise it was one of the best, most freeing things that could happen to you. I was done with my ex.. i blocked him from everything, but he emailed me this long nasty message that triggered a response. we didnt contact each other after the break up. Going out a lot is not necessarily the behavior of a totally healed, emotionally available person ready to positively sail into their future. Although seeking forgiveness and making amends is a great start, an apology doesn't always mean someone wants to get back into a relationship, just as giving forgiveness doesn't always mean the relationship will be renewed. I had such a hard time dating him because I liked him so much and wanted to build something that felt safe, good, real, authentic and I felt so guilty being jealous of his ex wife, his ex-girlfriend, his pre-existing female friends. He called and contactd me with stupid excuses all the time EVEN after I asked NOT TO!And he follows my stories on insta.but I feel he is moving on.I asked him a couple times to leave me alone..because he does nt love ME he loves ALL WOMEN. If he only speaks fondly of the good times and doesnt mention the bad ones, its a sign that hes still in love with you. I've been crying for the past few hours and now I just feel emotionless. So this last fight that ended our relationship, my boyfriend left a letter on my door with my house key taped to it , and in the letter he would say great things about me like I wouldnt change a single thing about you but then would say Im not the type of guy to forgive you for this and this breakup is the closure I need. Question: As soon as we broke up, he was having sex with another woman. Oh my My ex is still in love with me according to your list!!! Can we still be friends? is one of those normal things that people say when they choose to breakup but in reality, this is not something you should cling to as a definite sign either way. I have never seen him cry ever and he teared up and cried while we were talking and it confirmed to me how much he cared. Apparently a girl invited him to a bonfire that night and it was almost over so he got pissed off at my friends and I that we took too long to go. Then when i send him a video of my guy friend and i ice skating he said ( instead of being like oh fun) He was like I cant ice skate I still love him and I know he knows but I didnt bring up the breakup until he said that he wants to be a father figure or a male influence on my kids lives. Do you still have a lot of your exs belongings? Im not judging, just confused. He broke up with me about a month ago. Posted by 1 year ago. She doesnt want a family nor kids and she wants to live overseas. You might be asking yourself why theyre so torn up when theyre the ones who broke up with you. Physical symptoms like vertigo, fatigue, and insomnia are a normal part of grief. We broke up but still live together. According to research, roughly 50 percent of couples who breakup end up giving it another go. He got PISSED. You are still a significant part of his life, so its normal for someone to wonder whats going on and continue to be a little territorial. Because they don't care. The plan was he was supposed to come to sc, we pack up my car and the kids, drive down to Florida, go to her gradution, leave there and go to his dads house which is 2 hours away, get his stuff, and then keep going west. Let your ex do his thing but make sure you particularly enjoy the company of other men. I always focus on my kids all the time but why cant I focus on myself too and have a life and a bf future hubby. If your ex keeps replying to you with words like cool or Thats awesome, what are you supposed to do with it? And he still blames me for everything saying I made him run into the arms Id this woman.the nerve if the man. They may act like a couple and have all the trappings of a relationship, such as spending time together, meeting each others friends and family, and having long conversations about their feelings. You Only Hang Out Once A Week If you and your almost-partner have been dating once a week for two months or more, then beware. He explained that he loves me more than anything and I make him happy and that I have done absolutely nothing wrong that Im perfect and an amazing girlfriend and everything he has ever wanted and so on. I wrote a short email and have basically said bye and started NC today. Its not only about Jenia; you might even be one of them! Whatever the reason, acknowledge why you continue to act as if you and your ex are still a couple and take steps to move on in your journeys. Drunk dialing and texting after a breakup can be annoying and confusing, but if anything, it definitely shows that your ex is thinking about you when their defenses are down.